Unabridged Audiobook
truly made me consider my own feelings, actions, sexuality, and feminism.
CW: rape / SA / consent lines blurred This was my least favorite book I've read in years. Based on the title I was expecting it to read like a fiction memoir of The Gay Chingy's life but instead it was like weirdly heteronormative and rape-culturey masquerading as trying to be subversive. I do no think there were enough warnings for what was basically a rape scene that was pretty graphic and I have a very high graphicness tolerance so like I really mean it IDK. It reads as if a woman in her 20s got into kink / subversive sex for like a month and was like Im gonna do something groundbreaking without doing any research. I believe the author was just in her mid 20s when she wrote this and that lack of general life experience and lack of conprehensive understanding of D/S roles in and dynamics shoooows. It almost, almost started to explore some interesting themes but truly only teased at them before falling flat and ended up reinforcing weird problematic compulsory heterosexuality type vibes and blurring of consent lines in a way that did not feel self aware. It felt weirdly queer baity. I really try to be kind in my reviews bc I think most media is for someone even if it's not for me but truly if I can keep one person from reading this book I would. Go read a Sam Delany book instead idk.
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