Have you ever complained, “If they found love, why can’t I?” In this quick and uncomplicated guide, longtime sex and relationship therapist Dr. Ruth takes readers step-by-step through every phase of the modern relationship, from meeting and courtship to moving out of the friend zone and falling in love—which should not be done blindly.

If you really want to find romance, Dr. Ruth has the signs to look for and the roadblocks to avoid. Using examples from her own life as well as others, she offers advice on choosing your destination, creating a roadmap, and navigating your way to a great relationship—all with her characteristic wit, wisdom, and frankness.