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Existential Kink: Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power; A Method for Getting What You Want by Getting Off on What You Don’t

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Carolyn Elliott
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31
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8
Release Date
April 30, 2020
Duration
6 hours 33 minutes
Summary
A smart, sexy guide to embracing the repressed, tabooed, and often unwanted aspects of ourselves so we can discover our inner power and finally live the life we deserve.

“We always get exactly what we want; but often, though we may not be aware of it, what we most want is dark—very dark.”

Each of us has a dual nature: we are light (conscious) and dark (unconscious). The dark side of our personality—the “other,” the shadow side—is made up of what we think is our primitive, primal, negative impulses—our “existential kink.” Our existential kink also drives the dark or negative repeating patterns in our life: always choosing the abusive partner or boss, settling for less, thinking that we’re undeserving, not worthy. But it also is the source of our greatest power.

In Existential Kink, Carolyn Elliot, PhD, offers a truth-telling guide for bringing our shadow into the light. Inviting us to make conscious the unconscious, Elliot asks us to own the subconscious pleasure we get from the stuck, painful patterns of our existence.

Existential Kink provides practical advice and meditations so we truly see our shadow side’s “guilty pleasures,” love and accept them, and integrate them into our whole being. By doing so, Elliot shows, we bring to life the raw, hot, glorious power we all have to get what we really want in our lives.
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Profile Avatar Taylor G. Jun 2025

An interesting thought experiment but potentially harmful from an actual psychological standpoint. Most claims are based in debunked and/or outdated pedagogy. There’s a reason the writer was kicked out of her psyche program and it’s not that she was just ahead of her time and too forward thinking and freaky for a bunch of fuddy-duddy old academics like she suggests.

Profile Avatar Kat A. Jul 2022

This book / and process allowed me the most LIFE-CHANGING shift in perception I have ever experienced, after all the self-development work I had done in the past 15years! I was physically ill and struggling with complex issues in my life and the book came to me in the exact right moment, I did the EK meditation that night, had the biggest epiphany about my life amd dissatisfaction the past 3 years and the next morning everything had shifted, over night I had cured myself from 3 weeks of fevers and fatigue, my immunse system was no longer fighting..and I was no longer fighting my life (thta which my greater Self had chosen). Ever since, I have been in perfect flow with life, so joyous, so much aliveness, in alignment, good timing and healing with so much ease lots of wounds from the past - there are still sometimes challenges coming my way but I now see that I truly chose that and allow myself to find the pleasure in it. Carolyn Elliot, I'll be forever grateful for your work, your courage to share this radical approach, you really HAVE CHANGED MY LIFE, and I cannot but tell the whole world about EK...those who are ready for this deep truth will be swept off their feet into higher realms of bliss and those who get triggered and resist ..well we'll see you later, eventually I know we'll all meet in the EK heaven. And re the audiobook, I am so happy I opted for it, Carolyn's voice just so wonderful to listen to and her way of expressing is rich, fun and truly never gets boring - I (who hardly ever finish books) binge listened to EK in one go, and re-listened already 3x, and keep getting new insights out of it. Honestly, this book should be on the Top 3 most life-changing books next to Brené Brown.

Profile Avatar Anonymous Oct 2025

At times it's captivating, at other times I don't feel like hearing the author's story anymore. She talks at length about her own world. I understand shadow work is complex and deep and as someone who has experienced traumatic experiences I advise anyone undertaking this work to do it with a trusted confidant, counselor or partner. Carolyn brushes off a reader who asks about depression saying, "this is a book. we can't help with everything." She states the only way to really heal trauma is by participating in ayhuasca ceremonies - I have no doubt she receives some kick back profit from promoting this. All in all an entertaining listen though at times it's repetitive in its language and her delivery becomes montone. I tried the exercises and some feel better than others.

Profile Avatar Anonymous Jul 2023

This book is genuinely life changing

Profile Avatar Colby B. May 2022

Fascinating and eye opening!

Profile Avatar Elisa M. Apr 2021

Life changing. Totally new perspective to embrace life fully, shadows included.

Existential Kink: Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power; A Method for Getting What You Want by Getting Off on What You Don’t

Existential Kink: Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power; A Method for Getting What You Want by Getting Off on What You Don’t

Author: Carolyn Elliott
Read by: Carolyn Elliott
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