A sweeping and empathetic portrait of the new gender divide, from a top pollster and cultural commentator, with key insights into what the gap means for the future of romantic relationships, family life, and America’s civic project

“Regardless of your politics, if you’re concerned about the future of America—and who isn’t?—this book is a must-read.”—Robert D. Putnam, bestselling author of Bowling Alone

In Generation Uncoupled, a leading researcher on American public life investigates the causes and consequences of the rising hostility between young men and women. Drawing on original polling research, over one hundred hours of interviews and focus groups, and conversations with experts, Daniel Cox traces how Gen Z is being driven apart by a culture that fosters fear, resentment and insecurity. What emerges is a portrait of a generation caught between new social technologies, the collapse of civic and social spaces, and a deepening sense of mistrust.

Through personal narratives and startling polling trends, Cox explores not only the complexities of modern dating and evolving attitudes about sex, but the deeper cultural forces redefining social life. He reveals how immersive digital experiences, polarized and personalized politics, and curated childhoods have created a preoccupation with individuality, a preference for social avoidance and a diminished sense of obligation. Along the way, we meet the young people behind the statistics: anxious, guarded, and uncertain.

But this isn’t a story of what’s broken or who’s to blame. It’s a call for a cultural reset; a reimagining of our social and civic priorities. With rigor, compassion, and a refusal to take sides, Generation Uncoupled challenges cultural orthodoxies and media narratives alike. If we want to rebuild trust, we must first recognize that we need each other. This is the definitive book for anyone trying to understand how we’ve veered so far off course and how we come together to fix it.