He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

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Date: November 2004

Duration: 3 hours 30 minutes


He’s Just Not That Into You—based on a popular episode of Sex and the City—is tough love advice for otherwise smart women on how to tell when a guy just doesn’t like them enough, so they can stop wasting time making excuses for a dead-end relationship. It’s the best relationship advice you’ll ever receive.

For ages, women have come together over coffee, cocktails, or late-night phone chats to analyze the puzzling behavior of men.

He’s afraid to get hurt again.
Maybe he doesn’t want to ruin the friendship.
Maybe he’s intimidated by me.
He just got out of a relationship.

Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo are here to say that—despite good intentions—you’re wasting your time. Men are not complicated, although they’d like you to think they are. And there are no mixed messages.

The truth may be, He’s just not that into you.

Unfortunately, guys are too terrified to ever directly tell a woman, “You're not the one.” But their actions absolutely show how they feel.

Reexamining familiar scenarios and classic mindsets that keep us in unsatisfying relationships, Behrendt and Tuccillo’s wise and wry understanding of the sexes spares women hours of waiting by the phone, obsessing over the details with sympathetic girlfriends, and hoping his mixed messages really mean, “I’m in love with you and want to be with you.”

He’s Just Not That Into You is provocative, hilarious, and, above all, intoxicatingly liberating. It deserves a place on every woman’s night table. It knows you’re a beautiful, smart, funny woman who deserves better. The next time you feel the need to start “figuring him out,” consider the glorious thought that maybe, He’s just not that into you. And then set yourself loose to go find the one who is.


  • Anonymous

    Yes it's a little repetitive but some of us need to be told a few times to really "get it" I guess. Separated from my husband 2 months ago,, and I feel a lot better after having finished the book Probably the best I've felt in a while. When my old habits flare up, I remember what the book said and I calm myself down.

  • Amira Rida

    Awesome book, so much better than his first! I recommend this book and his wife has a great warm reading voice too :)

  • Sara Goode

    Extremely uninsightful and repetitious. The obvious was being beaten into your head. It was redundant and seemed to run out of gas before making it around the corner. Attempted to disguise the same message as new and enlightening information. The same point was made over and over and over and over again. If you liked this review. You may enjoy the book.

  • Anonymous

    The first third of the book is fantastic. The rest is written as questions and answers, so gets a little mundane. All in all it's worth taking a listen there is a ton of true and relateable info. Very humorous tone too.

  • Vanessa

    I was recommended this book by a few girl friends, and so was looking forward to the insight into my relationships that it would offer. After the first chapter I could pretty much predict the rest, and didn't need to complete the audiobook (although I did). The advice is commonsense, and not particularly liberating or earth shattering if you don't already think of yourself as irresistible to everyone you meet. It's more of a reinforcement than a revelation.

  • Anonymous

    I just was curious to see what advice was in this book. It sounded good but actually the advice is great. It helped me to understand some of the guys I dated that were a little weird. But the authors are right, when a man loves you he goes out of his way to see you, make you happy, cares for your well being, and finds ways to enrich your life which is the exact description of my husband of four years. Of all the guys I dated he is the only one who didn't have mental baggage or a big lack of maturity or some other problem. So dreams do come true as long as your patient and keep plugging. After all, I bagged my guitar player!!

  • Catherine Copeland

    Where was this book when I was sixteen and beginning to date. Heck where was this book when I met my first husband. Talk about wasting my pretty. I begged, chased, cajoled, and finally won the big prize. The booby prize that is. I am thinking about buying a copy for each of my nieces as they head off for college. I wish I'd had a friend at the factory like this guy.

  • Anonymous

    Really redundant. Very plain. Not interesting. Not enlightening. Would not recommend. Worthless.

  • Anonymous

    While a few of the examples were a bit much, it's heart was in the right place. Entertaining and could be a light bulb moment for a few women I know.

  • Loren

    The format of the delivery was confusing to listen to at first, but once I understand what's going on, then I enjoyed listening to it. It's funny and clever. I actually have a copy of the CD and am now lending it to my single sister =)

  • Kathleen Russac

    While somewhat entertaining, it was quite repetitive and could have been half as long. I could relate a few examples to friends' experiences.

  • AC

    I can handle some "chick lit" but this was absolutely awful. I never read the book and definitely won't (by choice). Sent it back as quickly as I possibly could.

  • Cynthia McNulty

    So true, funny, a crass, and very helpful! I highly recommend it to any single American gal. It will save you time and energy and pain as you date.

  • Kim Todd

    Every woman in a dating situation should read this book. It is a bit repetitive and a bit long but it drills into your head that you don't need to be treated like crap and you ARE worth a decent relationship! Some of us need more reminding than others......

  • Anonymous

    Blah. There's really not much else to say. This is just another version of every other "dating" book for women--it pretends to be empowering but is acutally condescending (" . . .since you're too STUPID to know how to interact with men yourself . . ."). Maybe READING it would prove to be more interesting, but the format of the book did not lend itself well to audio. I'm generally a patient and open-minded reader, but I couldn't even give this one an hour before I had to turn it off.

  • Dana

    First off - I expected a novel. However, since I did not fully read the description, that could just be my fault for not realizing it was more of a self-help book. Personally I found this book to be repetitive and while slightly humorous at times, it was fairly boring. I also think some of the advice was common sense, but since I am obviously not the target market for this particular book, maybe somewhere, someone learned a lot from it. I was not impressed.

  • Anonymous

    Very funny and entertaining, but a little drawn out.

  • Rosie

    Whether you are in a relationship or just need a little advice--LISTEN TO THIS BOOK! It's read by the authors and is very entertaining and humorous!

  • Anonymous

    The information was good, but I expected a novel...It was formatted more like letters sent to a radio talk show. Also I agree that some of the language was unnecessary.

  • Maria

    This audiobook was not only entertaining, it was very informative. The style and and approach was complementary and practical. I found so many "take aways" as I was listening, that I realized that there are a lot of jerks that I have let hurt me needlessly. When I realized that he/they were "not that into" me, I actually felt liberated. This should be our declaration for the millenium, ladies!

  • Anonymous

    I like the idea of education women who are clueless. I was slightly upset with the foul language and the notion of sleeping around.

  • Jvd

    fun book---great for those girls who are in denial, or who are one of the guys

  • Anonymous

    This book will save hours of anxiety and thousands in therapy. It was a funny romp to listen to over housework. I found myself talking back to it saying "I hear ya." "Been there." "Oh, I'm so not doing that again." Every girl needs to hear this book at least once.

  • Anonymous

    I found this book really freeing. It's really helping me let go of relationships that have nagged at me for years. Should I have done something different or not? Would it have made a difference? This tells you to move on!

  • Anonymous

    Loved this book! I laughed from beginning to end. So many of the situations encapsulated my exboyfriend to a tee. Very glad I dumped him! Looking foward to meeting more men with Greg's point of view!!

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