Fight the way Jesus did.

Conflict is everywhere—in our marriages, friendships, church lives, work, and the quiet places where resentment, fear, and control take root. In How to Fight like Jesus, pastor and spiritual formation leader Eugene Polupan offers a practical, biblically grounded guide to conflict resolution for Christians who are tired of reacting poorly and ready to learn a better way. With pastoral warmth and theological depth, he shows readers that conflict is not just something to avoid or survive; it can become a place of healing, discipleship, and redemption.

Drawing from Scripture, spiritual formation practices, and real-life relational experience, Polupan helps readers uncover the deeper forces driving unhealthy conflict, including fear, woundedness, and the need for control. He offers a Christ-centered framework for engaging tension with truth, humility, courage, and love. Whether readers feel stuck in repeated arguments, strained relationships, church division, or silent resentment, How to Fight like Jesus offers hope for creating peace one conflict at a time.


- Discover why Christians so often fall into patterns of fear, avoidance, resentment, or control during conflict


- Learn how Jesus confronted tension with truth, love, courage, and surrender, not domination or passivity


- Identify the spiritual and emotional roots beneath unhealthy conflict in marriage, friendship, family, church, and work


- Redeem even old fights that ended badly, discovering how to learn from mistakes, diagnose what went wrong, and apply lessons to future conflicts


- Gain practical tools for pursuing reconciliation, emotional maturity, and redemptive peace


- Reimagine conflict as an opportunity for healing, spiritual growth, reconciliation, and Christlike formation



How to Fight like Jesus is a timely and transformative resource for anyone who wants to follow Jesus more faithfully in the relationships that matter most.