The outspoken liberal voice on the Fox News show The Five shows us how to stay true to our values, find common ground, and communicate with confidence when engaging across political and social divides.

“A helpful guide to engaging with those who think differently from you—and doing it in a thoughtful and civil way.”—Katie Couric

Imagine you’re sitting down to Thanksgiving dinner, knowing it’s going to get heated. One uncle is ready to argue about politics, another relative has very different views, and you usually try to stay out of it, even though you have strong opinions yourself. Conversations like these have split some families up. Now imagine that dinner table debate broadcast daily to millions.

Welcome to the world of Jessica Tarlov, an unflappable liberal voice on Fox News Channel’s The Five. When you’re outnumbered four to one on a daily basis, you better know your stuff. When you’re outnumbered four to one on the highest-rated show on cable news, you better have your beliefs on lockdown.

In the conservative fishbowl of The Five, Tarlov is no stranger to navigating thorny, often contentious debates with poise, authenticity, and conviction. In this riveting guide, Jessica Tarlov shows us how she does it. Because at some point or other, we all face disagreements—whether with colleagues, family, or friends—and want to walk away with both our values and our relationships intact.

Tarlov models an important and accessible route to building bravery for these conversations. She demonstrates that navigating contentious situations is a skill that requires radical honesty, knowing how to engage with numbers and statistics, understanding when to listen and when to talk, and articulating the common threads that unite us all. Tarlov has honed these skills with practice, and here, she reveals her tools of the trade for the first time. She also explores the future of coalition building, the policies that will animate voters, and a politics we can all feel better about.

Whether you find yourself at a charged debate with the in-laws, or in a tricky conversation with your boss, Jessica Tarlov will prepare you to stand up for what you believe in, even if it means standing alone—and why standing alone doesn’t mean standing apart.