A NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER

You’re not the man you want to be. Because none of us are. It's a quest, not a destination.

Whether you're young and still learning or seasoned but always trying to improve, this book is a list of hard lessons learned through marriage, fatherhood, war, business and politics all in the quest to be a good man.

Retired Green Beret, husband, father, and Virginia legislator Nick Freitas has spent a lifetime in demanding roles. He has thought deeply about the standards every man needs to meet (and, like all of us, knows the challenge of consistently measuring up). In this book, he shares straightforward, concrete advice on over fifty masculine skills, including:



- How to win an argument fairly
- How to plan the perfect date
- How to win a fight
- How to prepare a steak
- How to pit a car


The answer to the crisis of masculinity is not docility or weakness, but men who are both strong and honorable. Freitas shares his experiences and lessons learned along the way. With a signature blend of humor and hard-earned wisdom, Freitas gives you the actionable knowledge to get things done and be the man your wife, children and country needs.