I feel sick, tired and old. I have no more energy for anything. I am just waiting. Waiting for a kind word, waiting for him to get back to me, waiting to be acknowledged. I can't understand what I'm doing wrong, it's not good for me, I know that. But I can't help it, I stay. It's my own fault. I just have to try harder, become more tolerant. Then everything will be fine.'

Everyone who has had one or more relationships or encounters with a narcissist has had such thoughts. Very often we encounter this topic when choosing a partner. Have you been disappointed repeatedly, do you feel used or even guilty?

Surely a friend has already reported back to you that you keep 'falling for' the same type of man. Perhaps you are already thinking about this on your own and are considering fundamentally revising your 'prey pattern'. Possibly you are still in such a relationship and have the desire to free yourself from it, but do not know whether you really see 'clearly'?