Our New World of Adult Bullies: How to Spot Them — How to Stop Them

Our New World of Adult Bullies connects the dots to show how bullies at all levels of society follow the same
predictable patterns of behavior.
Bullies exist everywhere: families, workplaces, neighborhoods and communities, politics and government, and
organizations of all types and sizes. And in a media landscape where conflict, crisis, chaos, and fear reign
supreme, every day we see the worst behavior of celebrities, politicians, and other public figures who serve as
role models.
Winners and losers. Friends and enemies. Heroes and villains. People with high-conflict personalities think
almost solely in these extremes. They regularly express unmanaged emotions, routinely blame others, and do
harmful things that 90% of people would never do. Bullies share these characteristics, plus a drive to dominate
or destroy their victims.
But all bullies act in the same highly predictable patterns, regardless of their demographics and situation.
By focusing on the ten hidden powers bullies employ—from their unrestrained nature and bully story to
manipulating emotions and playing the victim—Bill Eddy unpacks the way bullies rely on primitive emotions and
nonverbal behavior. He helps readers spot these behaviors and offers practical actions before they become
immobilized by helplessness, blame, and shame.
In today’s world, we all may have an adult bully in our lives sooner or later. For anyone who has a bully in their
life now, for professionals who counsel victims of bullying, and for anyone who is concerned about the fraying of
our culture and society, this book gives effective strategies to prevent bullies from taking over. Eddy’s six-step
approach includes useful advice on how to:
Recognize the patterns of bully behavior
Pull the plug on the bully’s story
Set limits with credible threats
Impose serious consequences
Communicate effectively about bullies to others
Stand strong with others against bullies
Our New World of Adult Bullies takes a closer look at the dangerous behavior of bullies and stop the behavior
before it starts.