Searching for Mom: A Memoir

Searching for Mom is a “disarmingly honest” mother-daughter story. Sara Easterly spent a lifetime looking for the perfect mother. As an adoptee she had difficulties attaching to her mother, struggled with her faith, lived the effects of intergenerational wounding, and felt an inherent sense of being unwanted that drove her to perfectionism, suicidal ideations, and fantasy mothers. When she became a mom, her search to find and become “the perfect mother” intensified … until her mother’s death launched a spiritual epiphany. Sara’s perspective as an adoptee offers insight for anyone in the adoption constellation. And her hopeful story with themes of belonging, family, forgiveness, and being known are universally relevant to all mothers and daughters.

The book is interspersed with love letters and poems from the author’s mother, as well as informed by experts in faith, adoption, and attachment.


- Gold Medal Winner in the 2020 Illumination Book Awards
- National Indie Excellence Awards Winner
- Readers’ Favorite: Five-Star Review

EDITORIAL REVIEWS:

“Easterly examines her relationships with her birth and adoptive mothers in her engrossing debut ... a difficult story with brute honesty and impressive introspection.” —Publishers Weekly

“Easterly’s memoir contains a great deal of valuable information that may be helpful to adoptive parents, and to adoptees who feel a loss of biological connection ... A complicated but vividly portrayed search for identity.” —Kirkus Reviews