For those of us who've learned to survive by pleasing, performing and over-accommodating, leaving ourselves can feel like the price of belonging.

With her signature warmth, compassion, and expert clinical insight, trauma therapist and author of Try Softer Aundi Kolber reminds us we can unlearn these relational survival strategies. In Stay With Yourself, Aundi invites you to take compassionate ownership over your life—even when things are uncomfortable, emotional, and challenging.

Within this nuanced and courageous personal growth journey, you'll begin to heal from experiences, relationships, or systems that teach you to constantly betray yourself. Combining rich personal story, professional knowledge, and faith integration, this book will help you:


- identify the fawn trauma response in your behaviors and process the past pain that keeps you stuck in the cycle of self-abandonment


- forge a healthy connection with others while becoming―and staying―secure in who we are as unique individuals


- create the internal safety needed to reclaim your inner voice and true self


- listen to your inner wisdom instead of outsourcing it to others


- lovingly set and hold personal boundaries



You don't have to keep participating in your own harm. You, at the pace you're able, can cease organizing yourself around whatever threatens you. You can learn what it means to do the inner work and walk in integrity on your own God-given path. Not in opposition to the spiritual, embodied path of those who walk in the way of Jesus but in accordance with it. You deserve to build the capacity to move, one tiny step at a time, toward staying with yourself.