An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) approach to nurturing a more intentional, true-to-you sex life that aligns with your unique wants, needs, desires, and values.

Dr. Rebbeca Lahann offers a path to bridge the “authenticity gap”—the disconnect between our sexual behaviors and our values—and helps us embrace our desires, identities, and relationships with openness and clarity.

This book is not a one-size-fits-all rulebook for sex. Written for readers who want to live fuller, more satisfying, and authentic intimate lives, Values-Aligned Sexuality helps you understand yourself and your desires better—and moves you toward actualizing what you really want. Whether you’re single or partnered, queer or straight, or in monogamous, poly, ENM, kinky, or queerplatonic relationships: this book is for you.

Through practical exercises and evidence-based strategies, you’ll learn how to:


- Identify and get to know your authentic sexual values
- Understand the cultural scripts and inherited narratives that shape intimacy (even when you don't realize it)
- Manage difficult emotions like shame, anxiety, fear, and more
- Enhance your presence and connection in relationships
- Apply mindfulness exercises and partnered practices
- Detach from unhelpful thought patterns with the author’s LLAMA—Label, Let Go, Allow, Mindfulness, and Approach—method
- Move toward what you want in alignment with your sexual values


Integrating a holistic biopsychosocial perspective, this book helps you build psychological flexibility, self-trust, and intentional action. Rather than supplying you with rigid, standardized, vanilla, or unrealistic advice, Dr. Lahann gives you the tools to navigate your intimate life and realize it on your terms—and shows you how to deepen your connections, relationships, and sexual fulfillment.