I finally started writing WHEN I WAS 40: Overcame Some Challenges, Still Learning and Growing just before I turned 50. Around 2009 I had experienced quite a few memorable events, which prompted this title. I have taken pride in my accomplishments. I have had time to think about some decisions I made and challenges I faced. Many people in their 40's and 50's find themselves in a midlife crisis. Maybe something has happened, or something was done that caused a disruption in the home - a lost job, a lost business, bankruptcy, a failed marriage, a loved one's death, an empty nest, unfulfilled goals and dreams, and the list goes on. My disruption was a failed marriage. This book is about how God helped me through that time. He also had family, loved ones and prayer partners positioned to help me along the way. I have discovered that God doesn't waste any of my pain, even my self-inflicted pain. Each chapter describes my experience at age 40 and what I learned as I was reflecting and writing. Each chapter ends with reflection questions, the scriptures mentioned, a place to write what the reader has learned, along with a prayer. I have been very open and transparent because I finally learned to stop wearing masks. I feel like people need to know about my struggles so that they can discover how they can get through theirs. My goal is for this book to be a source of encouragement, inspiration and motivation for all who read it. Adults of all ages have told me that it has definitely helped them. In fact, I have all five-star reviews on Amazon and Barnes and Noble. This book is great for individual or a group Bible study. Anyone who has failed in marriage or any relationship can experience recovery, healing and restoration. I wish there was a way to combine the motivational/inspirational tone with the emotional tone. Certain parts need one and certain parts need the other.