You Just Don't Understand

Abridged Audiobook

Written By: Deborah Tannen

Narrated By: Deborah Tannen

Publisher: Simon & Schuster

Date: June 1991

Duration: 1 hours 30 minutes


Deborah Tannen's #1 bestseller revolutionized the way men and women talk -- and listen -- to each other -- at home, at work, and wherever the communication gap between the sexes can lead to troublesome misunderstandings. The problem dates back to childhood, when boys and girls learn to use language in distinctly different ways; years later, their adult efforts to talk often place them at cross purposes -- even when both are sincerely trying to communicate.
Dr. Tannen illustrates how the best intentions can go painfully awry between spouses, family members, co-workers and friends, With You Just Don't Understand, you'll recognize yourself and your own efforts to be understood -- and gain valuable insight to help you communicate better than ever before.


  • Daniel Taibi

    Another reviewer said that they felt it was "Man Bashing", I'm a man and I didn't find it man bashing at all. It seemed to be the rosetta stone for how men and women look at the same conversation and how to interpret each other. I found it very insightful. And I swear, I've had everyone of those arguments in the program with my wife! lol

  • Alma Medina

    is okay. however seems to be more focus on couples and i happen to be single. overall, i got a few tips that i will keep in mind when dealing with this difficult world of man

  • Christa Krais

    Dr. Tannen hit the nail on the head in many cases -- men and women do communicate in different ways. Her illustrations are accurate, if somewhat insulting. While it is great to hear the ways in which we communicate differently, what is missing (and what I need) is how to overcome communication obstacles. I get that we approach life from different perspectives. Tell me how to bridge that gap.

  • Mike

    I've owned this book for 6 or 7 years now and I've re-read it several times over. The book is terrific, however, the audiobook is not. It's basically an overview of the book. Two CDs couldn't possibly convey the information contained it this excellent book, and they didn't. Very disappointing. Please, if you are interested in learning why men and women have very different conversational styles, do yourself a favor and skip the audiobook! Buy the book instead, it will greatly improve your relationships with the opposite sex.

  • David Jackson

    Deborah lays into the men out there -- they're a bunch of Cro-Magnon idiots, apparently. There is some helpful insight here, but spoken from WAY over to one side of the fence. Try being a little more even-handed next time.

  • Anonymous

    I agree with the reviewer that said the reader sounded bored. This was very basic info and I stopped listening after the first cd.

  • Angelika Teal

    Deborah Tannen helps to resolve the mysteries between female and male type of communication. It not only helped me to figure out relationship misunderstandings, but empowered me professionally. The presentation was crisp and professional with enough examples to make the issue clear to the listener. I suggested that book to my female co-workers, it is one of the many tools women need to move up in the professional world.

  • Anonymous

    The topic was good but the presentation was not engaging. The speaker was boring in her presentation of the issues and left me loosing my concentration. I often had to rewind to hear what was her point. I think if someone else was presenting the book, made it more engaging and not so monotoned, then the subject would be more effective and interesting.

  • Anonymous

    I felt this book was very one sided towards woman (and I'm a woman) - I related more to the mans side - I think the author sounded bored and the book was not with it.

  • Anonymous

    just a lot of information. nothing that important. I would not want to listen to it again

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